3 Ways To Live With A Perfectionist (By A Perfectionist)


The best tips and tricks you need, directly from a perfectionist.
It’s safe for me to say I am a self confessed perfectionist. I spend a lot of my time dedicated to the tasks I do and even more time dedicated to getting everything complete to the best standard possible. As someone who spends most of their time like this it comes with a lot of drawbacks. Striving for the best every time is a good thing don’t get me wrong, but along with it is a lot of frustration, when something doesn’t go as planned or if a mistake is made that’s not easily fixable.

Being a perfectionist in my case means that I can spend way too much time on a task that in reality only needs to take an hour, could re write an assignment multiple times until it sounds as good as it possibly can and could edit a blog post for hours until it’s as symmetrical and visually appealing as I can get it, but it doesn’t always help when you’ve got other people commenting on how much you’re stressing over every single detail.
I know this from first hand experience and everyone who knows me well enough has sort of learnt to adapt around this when I’m trying to different tasks. The amount of times I’ve been doing work at Jake’s house and have been spending hours editing the layout of presentation slides until they’re how I want them is unreal, and over the weeks as I’ve been doing more of them he’s picked up on the fact that complaining I’m taking too long doesn’t make me work any faster. I literally can take as long as possible to finish something if it’s not as great as I feel it can be.

So I guess the aim of this post is to sort of give those of you who aren’t as “perfectionistic” as I am some advice on how to make it easier to live with people like “me”.


When I’m working on something and really trying to concentrate on it, I don’t really find it helpful to have someone around me. Literally the littlest distraction can make me completely lose my train of thought and make me so agitated it’s unreal.
One of the best things you can do for someone when they’re working really hard to get something completed is just to simply leave them alone to get on with it. I know this isn’t always an ideal option or sometimes isn’t possible and you’re unable to leave the room for various different reasons, in which case it’s best just to not talk to them unless they talk to you until it looks as if they have successfully managed what it is they were attempting in the first place.
On the other hand though that doesn’t mean you have to completely evacuate the room every time your perfectionist other wants to do something, do tasks together, help each other out and enjoy each others company, just try and know when it’s time to step back and let them do their thing.


When someone is spending a lot of time on something and putting a lot of effort into it, to me that makes it clear that it’s something that they enjoy and something that they want to be proud of. I could think of so many things in my life which this applies to, whether it be college work, blog work or my actual job, I try my best to do the best I can in these areas because they’re things which I enjoy and want to be able to look back on and be able to say “I did a really good job.” It makes it so much harder for someone to be able to do their best in something if they don’t  have the support of the people around them, and the encouragement to keep going. Missing these things can really hinder someones hope and enthusiasm for whatever it is they’re doing.


Yes I’ve seen every mistake I’ve made, Yes I know I’ve spent the last half an hour repeatedly typing out the same paragraph. Everyone knows what it is they’re doing, and having someone who’s sitting there pointing everything out does not make the task any easier… Helpful advice and pure criticizing are two different things and if you know someone is already fussy enough about the tasks they complete, don’t point out negatives unless you’re actually trying to help. I know I personally can get so irritable after spending a long time working on something, and if you’re perfectionist other is anything like me this may also be the case, and unnecessary criticism could potentially lead to an all guns blazing argument. Be nice and kind about the way you give advice, being positive is the way forward. 


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Are you a perfectionist like me? Is there anything you need to do / happen to help you get things done?


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