Swingers - True confessions from today's swinging scene

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I love her. I really do. I wanted us to grow old together, and she agrees but says that we aren't old right now(both mid 30's), so we shouldn't act it. She feels that she married too young (19) and never got to party and be young. I'm considering trying to maintain an open relationship with her. I even told her that I would consider the threesome with her and another guy. We are going to have a big talk about it later tonight. I don't want to lose her. We have 15 years together and four kids. I have always been faithful to her, even when I was in the Navy and saw other guys cheat on their wives left and right. I was a good boy, and now I feel that I've wasted that time and investment and maybe I should have had more fun. How it impacted her relationship:“[Swinging] honestly had no effect on our relationship, which ended for other reasons. Swinging changed me personally for the better. I have sexual confidence that I didn’t have before. I exclusively date swingers now because I meet a much better class of men. They really honor and respect women.”

I'm still very confused and I've still got a pulse in the high 90's and high blood pressure from this. Usually I have a low blood pressure and a pulse of 50. I know that I'm just not thinking straight right now. If the mums at the school gate knew the truth about our relationship I’m not sure they’d be so keen on play dates. I hope in the future that ‘openness’ will be less taboo and I won’t have to feel guilty about my life choice, but for now, I’m keeping my swinging hobby firmly under wraps. Unless, of course, you’re interested? Perhaps surprisingly, sex with others was not our priority: for us, it’s about building community. We’ve made some of our closest friends at swingers events, and we hoped that after a week of cruising, that number would grow.

That’s when I understood. The reason John wanted to try things differently had nothing to do with our love or care for each other. My wife Karen , out of the blue says she wants to start swinging. She tends to be very driven, and usually gets what she wants. I asked her why she wants to do that. She tells me she feels it will spice up our relationship, she thought our marriage was getting stale. If I didn’t agree to swinging, then she wants an open marriage. “If you don’t say yes to swinging I have someone I want to date on Friday, “ The other confession was when she was in college she gave her rooomates much younger brother a ** and she stated he shot off gallons of **. She said she was highly turned on to that. I asked her if she always made sure to swallow it all she said Yes!!!I asked her if she remembers how many times she blew him and she said over a dozen times at random places and times. Didn’t want her roommate to find out. She said there hasn’t been any guy that came close to his explosive loads.She loves me showing vids of guys ** huge loads Former work associates, we'd hung out a few times and just watched TV/movies, smoked, drank but nothing happened for a long time. I had an emotional and physical attraction to her, and the feeling was mutual. But we never crossed a line. My wife is more attractive than me. This is usually the case with most couples. I will only admit that here as I’m a fraud of a person. When people see the real me, I become more Republican than I actually am. We hide and hide often. That is slang for being full of crap. I am one being why I likely hide and pretend I’m all that when people that pay attention would know outside of having a great butt, I’m nothing.

She explained sometime after this that at the beginning she was feeling distant from her husband, he was pushing her to have kids and, according to her, being a d---. I wasn't that guy. I wouldn’t say swinging necessarily improved our marriage, nor did it worsen it. What has it accomplished? It allowed us to spend a lot more time together while doing something fun we both enjoy. I learned that just because you love someone doesn’t necessarily mean you have to only sleep with them for the rest of your life. It’s up to every couple to decide for themselves. I haven’t told my family or close friends about this aspect of our relationship because I’m afraid they will think I am forced into it. I’m not ashamed of our actions. But I believe many people won’t understand our motivations. This time I slept with several women I kept hidden from my wife because I already know what she was and likely still is. One was one of her best friends and I threw it in her face that the sex with us was incredible. Amazingly, it was and it was often: The problem was she was also sleeping with my wife and my wife fell in love with her.Tonight's talk should be a simple one on your end. Your first question should be, "do you want to stay married and committed to me and only me, or do you want to Divorce?" You probably will get the "I'm confused, I don't know what I want" schpeal. Don't fall for it. Be firm and tell her, "I am not going to wait around forever while you find yourself, you need to make a commitment, me, or your other lifestyle". If you wish to give her time, there's nothing wrong with that. We hung out a week or so later, and she said she had liked my beard rubbing against her, and then asked me to do it again. This progressed over days to more intimately cuddling, grinding, groping and finally I kissed her. It was awesome. Consulting a lawyer sounds a good idea. She isn't going to change unless she sees some real consequences of her stupid behaviour. She is going to a dark road, you should consider to protect yourself and your kids, not go along with her. IMO, let her have her choices, freely (don't include you), IF the loving caring talking won't work on her.

Within a week her usual lover was in our bed making love to her. It stopped, then started again so I told her let’s swing again to open up the marriage. She thought this was odd but she was excited. I wonder why. She also cammed as we didn’t have tons of money. This was my bright idea and seemingly showing off my then hot wife. What was I thinking? I remember coming home one night at three in the morning and seeing he wasn’t home. He had already started going out for paid sex services, but he always came home after and never spent an entire night outside. Once he was inside the swinging subculture, Stern was surprised by what he found. He explains that he had preconceived notions of swingers that weren’t exactly flattering or, apparently, accurate. “The major stereotypes are that swingers are a subculture of overly libidinous miscreants that want to [have sex with] anything with a pulse,” he says. What he found, however, was that swingers are just regular men and women who may be a little more kinky than the average person, and often a lot more tolerant. “I’ve found swingers to be the most accepting and caring lot I’ve come to know in this life,” Stern says. “It’s probably because we’re all outside society’s norm, so we understand.” If you are not 100% into the "open marriage" thing, it will DESTROY your marriage. Do not accept this "just to keep her". If all you want is her, but she's not satisfied with only you, then it will NEVER work.

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My husband and I kept things quiet as well, reinforcing our love for each other with a sunset blowjob on the balcony. Thank you all for the advice. She'll get home in about an hour and we've planned to have a long talk. She finally broke down and showed remorse when I told her that I made an appointment with a lawyer about divorce. I think it hit home that her world and the kids' lives were about to be radically affected by her act. She started to think that she could afford to stay on island because she want to keep the good support we have for my autistic son, but I told her that it she couldn't afford to stay in Hawaii. I told her that I'd either send her and the kids home to live with her parents, or I send the kids to live with my parents on the mainland and she could do whatever she wanted to try to get by. I told her she could even go whore around downtown for all I care, but she be part of the kids' lives if she stays in Hawaii.

Even before dinner, I received several more requests from men, women, and couples to play. Unfortunately, I didn’t have enough time, energy, or flesh to make it all happen. One idea that has stayed with me ever since is that there is no such thing as “normal.” Normal is a social construct. The actions and ways of life repeatedly carried out by the people around us are not always the only way to live. Instead, they are an outcome cultivated by society over time. Instead of staying at the bar, we decided to go a dance club that played all kinds of different music. My wife walked into the club with Ben on her arm, and I likewise with Jody. We got a booth, Karen and Ben go to the dance floor immediately, while I stayed and talked to Jody. I asked her all kinds of questions about her swinging, she said they didn't swing with that many couples, 1, or 2, and one of the couples had dropped out, so they were looking for a new couple to swing with. I promised everyone that we would meet on the next LLV trip, be it a hotel takeover or a cruise, and that next time we wouldn’t wait so long to get to know each other.My husband and I spent the morning on a private, nude island near Raiatea with a group of swingers, getting full body tans while letting husbands and wives take turns playing with my naked breasts. In 2000 I suggested to my husband since he was never going to forgive any thing or any one for the way we had him treated after he discharged from the Navy with a honorable discharge. All I had done until then was I did have one affair while he was Underwater for three and a half years out of pure lonlyness after our marriage a year and a half before. then when he returned two years latter things were just such a disruption with his nine years seniority and more than sixty percent of the UAW plat he was retuning from his military leave to. I was trying to keep him from being more disruptive than nearly 160 other Military returnees had been the last year.