I felt more in touch with myself. Maybe it was the tequila working its magic, but a dormant place had been awakened inside of me and it was singing. I’m usually not that comfortable with letting it all hang out, but none of that mattered. Our two bodies were coming together and it felt totally empowering. Despite having unshaven legs, chipping toenail polish, and hair all over the place, I felt sexier than ever before. Meanwhile I found out that she was getting in trouble at work for being too friendly with this lesbian woman and all her other work friends. Her boss had to tell them they could not be on their phones at work. So now my wife has left and I with the kids alone yet again. Your wife is having a very common affair, read some blogs the stories and complaints are basically all the same. These hidden complaints always seem to show up after the spouse has crapped all over their partner. Unfortunately for you your reaction to it has only prolonged your misery. You have let her guilt you into inaction, while at the same time continue to raise your children without her. See her actions for what they are, awful. OP, I think the stress of everything going on in your wife's life (raising 4 kids under 6 years old, maintaining a full time job, dealing with a new city, tight money situation, and a husband that's gone 3 nights a week leaving her to do 100% of the child rearing and chores) has sent her over the edge of reason. I think the connection with the OW is less the romantic lovers kind and more because she provides your wife with emotional support and understanding. Your wife is latching on to a person who probably empathisizes with her situation. The next morning, we talked briefly about what happened over breakfast. It was like talking about the weather, so nonchalant and casual. We were still somewhat in disbelief about what happened the night before but in no way was the conversation awkward. Really, there was nothing to feel awkward about. I complimented her tongue thrusting, she made a comment about my tongue ring, and we raved about how good the pancakes were all in the same breath.

We’re even better friends now. I’m not sure if it’s because we share something together that none of our other friends do or if it’s because we know what each other taste like. She’s always been someone I could tell my deepest darkest secrets to and now we had one of our own together. Bodily fluids were exchanged—how could we not become better friends? Although we’re nowhere near ashamed of what happened, we prefer to keep it between the two of us. It’s better that way. PARENTS, PLEASE BE ADVISED: If you are a parent, it is your responsibility to keep any age-restricted content from being displayed to yourFirst of all, OP, I am sorry to hear what has happened to your marriage. But everything happens for a reason. And the problems come from both parties. Tequila was definitely involved. The night started off just like any other. It was the end to an unusually stressful work week and my best friend and I decided to ditch the wine and go for something a bit more potent. At about four shots and two mixed drinks in, things started to get interesting… It felt totally natural and unforced. We didn’t talk about it, we just went for it. Our body language was speaking volumes, so I knew this was something we both wanted to do. My first sexual experience with a girl was about to happen and it felt like I was about to go on a shopping spree—I was just that excited. Everything about it was just right. Before I knew it, we were both fully undressed and groping like teenagers. I can understand how you wife just changed and gave up suddenly because I experienced something similar five years ago, though my pressure was from my family (15 years of pressure since i was a kid, living in anxiety/stress/worried) + ex. I was in depression for almost a year and i found no support from my ex and family. There was only one person who accompanied through all my sleepless nights and was able to pull me out of darkness, which is my current gf. Until today, I still cannot be sure if she was the reason why I left my ex or was it depression that made it so. Now on to you, you have been way to passive in this whole thing. You should have giving consequences from the very beginning. Read "No more Mr. Nice Guy." This is a book for nice guys like you, who are really no confrontational. Why do you want to be with a woman who would treat you and your kids like this anyway? Something is wrong with your wife that she could do this to you and her kids and feel not shame about it. I get detaching from the marriage but she is basically throwing it in your face and has little regard to how awful this must feel for you. Normal decent people don't do this. There is better out there for you.

By the way, though, she was having sex with me and was very active in the bedroom right at the beginning of these women's hanging out, which made it even more acceptable for her to go out if she was going to be intimate. We have not been very intimate in our relationship in the past. We went more than a year without sex at least three times, and then it was every three or four months. I was excited about the sex, but after our first argument, things started to change. She was ignoring me and constantly texting this lesbian woman. She ended up having an overnight at this woman's home with some of her friends. I was still fine with it. I am a very loving person and I felt bad for my wife for years without good friends, and here they were taking all our time away from each other. I know. I told her that I was just jealous. Ever since Director Sebastián Lelio's Disobedience premiered at TIFF in 2017, it's been the talk of the town among the five queer women who care about this kind of stuff. The film tells story of Orthodox Jewish lesbians in London: Esti (Rachel McAdams) caught in a loveless relationship with a Rabbi, and Ronit (Rachel Weisz) trapped in a series of meaningless heterosexual hookups. This is going to be tough. My wife and I have been together for 14 years, and we have 4 children ages 5, 3, 3, and 5 months. We both work full time and have been in a new city for about a year and a half. No family or friends when we came. We had moved from another city with little to no friends, and my wife gave birth to our twins. We have been so busy with kids and moving to new jobs over the past couple of years. We have been even busier with this brand-new baby. Well, my wife made some friends at work that we would hang out with once in a blue moon. They had kids their age as well, and my wife worked closely with the other woman. There were several women that worked very closely together at her work. About two months ago, they started hanging out on nights when I was home from work. I was all about my wife going out and having friends. We had been waiting for some kind of support system for her to go out and have fun. I encouraged her to go out because we had not had good friends around in years. All i wish is you can be strong while set her free. If in future she regrets what she did to you, that's a lesson for her. Don't let her take you for granted.

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She sad a Christmas party and stayed the night with this woman again. I am trying to give here space so she can figure out where she is in life but this was so hard for me to watch her leave at night knowing she was going to this woman’s house and confiding in her. She has told me that she needs here space at night as well when I am home but she is really on the phone with this woman until late hours of the night. She has stopped giving me affection and is not allowing me to give her affection. Being nice and giving her space will not cause her any angst and will in fact perpetuate her behavior since she is getting what she wants without any consequences. Actually your inaction is seen in her eyes as acceptance. Therefore, if you are to have any chance of saving your marriage you must set boundaries immediately and force her to comply. If she does not, then you must be ready to enforce them in a way that will cause her to experience loss. This is usually done with the threat of D but be warned that a threat without enforcement is simply of no value so you must be able and willing to move forward if necessary. The fact that my friend went down on me and we actually survived the experience with our friendship intact doesn’t mean I recommend you try the same thing. Here’s why. Well, my wife continued to ignore me for a week and did not talk about the first argument, which was about her ignoring me in the first place. Over the weeks she was going out she had been spending a lot of money also. We needed money to pay bills! On Thanksgiving, I confronted her again because after our family dinner she shut herself up in our room talking to this woman on the phone laughing so loud that I had to come and speak my mind. She got off the phone and we had another argument. I was so upset that she was going out of her way to not be around me and was giving all her attention to this woman.

I try to squeeze here hand before I go to work and it’s like a dead fish. She still has not sat down and talked to me about how she truly feels. I read the "Fog of an affair" and have been trying to be patient and supportive as she tries to find herself. I have also started to implement the 180 crap to see if that works. She is just gone and there is nothing I can do. I slept like a baby. I even remembered what my dream was about—that never happens! Despite what had occurred, there were no anxious thoughts trying to keep me awake and no signs of regret attempting to settle in. I’m no stranger to making terrible decisions when too much liquor starts flowing, but this wasn’t the case. I did start to feel a hangover trying to creep in, so I popped two ibuprofen and was out almost instantly. I'm not about to put Kissing Jessica Stein in this category, because it's too weak of a queer film to be even considered. There's also Mulholland Drive, which had some very brief hot queer moments relative to its era (2001). Heavenly Creatures (1994) served the queer goth community particularly well. Sadly, that community is relatively small.

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years old or of legal age to view such material in your local jurisdiction, whichever is greater. Furthermore, you represent and warrant I think that if you have an chance of fixing your marriage, you're going to first find a job that doesn't take you away from your family 4 days a week (3 nights). The next step would be to start marriage counseling to help you two deal with the stress of your lives. We had pent-up sexual tension anyway. My friend went down on me because we had a vaguely flirty relationship previously anyway. While we weren’t crushing on each other hard enough to want a relationship or anything, we were curious about one another sexually and took whatever opportunity we could get to pursue that. In other words, it didn’t really come out of nowhere. As a queer woman myself, I was mostly concerned that the two female characters ate a whole plate of spaghetti without brushing their teeth before commencing intercourse.